Because we homeschool our children, I had this idea in my head that of course my children have a hero they identify with. Not a comic book super hero made of fiction but an individual who was worthy of inspiring awe.
Much to my dismay, I recently discovered that one of my children doesn’t have a hero they identify with. This whole lack of not having a hero is akin to an open wound for him. While he thinks Jesus is great (and that was his initial answer), I could tell he longed for someone that he knew — that didn’t seem so far off or unreachable in his finite young mind.
This lack of a hero really has been some of the driving force behind his melancholy. By finding out that he had no immediate hero, he also didn’t have a goal — a dream — any desire to do something great.
I thought everyone did.
What is a hero?
A hero is “a person who is admired or idealized for courage, outstanding achievements, or noble qualities.”
What Most People Think A Hero Is
I think most people, including my son, think a hero is — is someone famous.
And I think this one misunderstanding is what has trapped my son in a goal-less, hero-less, coasting aimless limbo land.
How to Find a Hero
Because I have been to very dark places in my mind, I see significant value in having a hero and a goal — having someone or something to focus on can be a lifeline. Beyond knowing that the Lord created us for a purpose and to be in relationship with Him, I know that the goals for my day are:
- spend time with the Lord through Bible study and prayer, and a worshipful attitude (which I struggle to achieve, to be honest)
- date my husband
- educate my children by helping them know God and make Him known
- share with women that essential oils are GODLY tools that the Lord left us on earth to heal our bodies (with His help)
These are what drive me.
So who are my heroes?
I knew you would ask. And my answer comes up almost as empty as my son. However, there is one that I don’t have to think much about: Kay Arthur.
While I have never met her, this is the woman who taught me how to study my Bible. And as a result that is how I teach people how to study their Bible.
I would also wager that my mom is. My mom stayed at home with us. She was there EVERY SINGLE DAY. While I am sure she got angry with me, I only remember like two times. She faithfully picked me up after school and we spend time driving around our town sipping a carbonated beverage. She was there to listen.
This quality time impacted me. It often drives me to be more hands free with my children — being 100% engaged with them.
Other heros? My friend — Pam. And my other friend, Karen. Oh, we can’t forget Sheri either. All of these women serve the Lord in full time missions. Some of their stories are incredible. They live dangerous lives at times.
How to Find a Hero
- Read books to your children. Our favorites are the series from YWAM, Heroes of History and Christian Heroes: Then and Now.
- Use GREAT history curriculum, like Mystery of History.
- Have your child interview the role models that you see in ministering to your child, such as pastors, Awana leaders, Taekwondo instructors (or similar), grandparents, a local fireman or policeman, and insert your idea here.
- Allow your child to shadow a community helper they are interested in
- GET OUT OF THE HOUSE — go to the museum or zoo
- Allow your child the freedom to climb trees, scale rocks, run ahead of you (in a safe location)
- Go hear Ben Carson speak at the Great Homeschool Convention or read his book published by Zondervan called, Gifted Hands (kids edition): The Ben Carson Story. His story is pretty amazing.
Point being, don’t allow your kid to wonder through their childhood without a hero. There is great value in your child having a hero — a role model. By no means do we want said hero to be an idol, or an individual that is spoken of incessantly. But having an individual that has defied the odds, fought a battle, and won — can have a tremendous impact on what your child will aspire to.
And that person, quite honestly, could be you.
For other blog posts featuring elements of Dr. Ben Carson, check out what other Great Homeschool Convention bloggers have to say this month.